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W four WN Radio. I got
the time And did you know women represent

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just three percent of Fortune five hundred
CEOs and less than fifteen percent of corporate

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execusatives at top companies worldwide. Have
you wondered what the secrets are to getting

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into the top ranks, whether in
the private or public sector. Do you

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want to figure out how to stop
being held back in your career? Are

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passed over for promotion, then you're
in the right place. Hi. I'm

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doctor Mattlanann Lewis, President and CEO
of the Executive Women's Success Institute. I

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have decades of experience in the military, the federal government, and corporate America,

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and my mission is to help women
succeed and tap into their full potential.

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I want to reach a million plus
women around the world to become the

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leaders they are meant to be.
So if you want to move into a

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management or executive level position, or
maybe you are a female veteran transitioning out

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of the military into business entrepreneurship,
then reach out to the Executive Women's Success

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Institute at three zero one three two
eight four. Let us get you on

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the fast track to success. Well, Hello, and welcome to the Success

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for Women's Show, where you can
view us on Talk for TV and listen

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to us on the Women for Women
Network. I am doctor Madeline Anne lewis

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your host, and my mission is
to help women accelerate the path to success.

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Well, my guest today is Achi
mcechern and the topic is going to

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be I am Chi, So we're
going to have a great conversation with her

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today, But let me just give
you a little bit of background about her.

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Achi is a speaker, certified life
coach, and entrepreneur. Her global

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mission is to motivate, inspire,
empower and transform. She is passionate about

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helping others practically achieve and sustain their
dreams by actively and intentionally developing themselves.

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From the stage. Chi uses candid
and energetic storytelling to help companies and organizations

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challenge their thinking and heighten personal awareness, which improves professional performance. She takes

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pleasure in sharing the personal experiences in
order to uplift and inspire audiences to the

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next level. I'd like to bring
on and introduce today my guests, missus

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Chi mceitcher. Hi. Hello,
talk to Madeline. Hi. It is

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so great to have you here on
the show today. I'm excited to hear

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what you have to say, all
those great nuggets you're gonna share with us.

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But here's the thing before we get
started. I always give my audience

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the standard bio on my guests,
but I also like to ask my guests

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just tell us what you want us
to know about h micahern. Well,

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first of all, thank you for
having me. It is an honor indeed

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to be here, and thank you
for your service. Thank you for serving

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our country. You're welcome. So
of course the bio said a lot,

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but other than that, what I
would want your audience to know is that

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I am a woman who deeply believes
in the power and the importance of mindset.

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I believe that our mindset controls every
facet of our lives, from the

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small things to the big things.
And I think that when we walk into

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any situation and we look at our
mindset and where that is around that particular

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situation or subject, that is where
the change happens. And when I think

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about the power of mindset and improving
your mindset, That's been a part of

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my foot print since I was a
little girl. My parents, we said

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earlier, I live in Naples,
Florida, but I was born in Cleveland,

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Ohio. My parents were born there
as well, and they left Cleveland,

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Ohio. My mom got pregnant when
she was seventeen, dropped out of

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high school. My dad dropped out
of high school at fourteen and had to

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live on his own. But they
had us, got married, and they

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decided to uprook their lives leave Cleveland, which was a big deal back there.

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You don't leave Cleveland. So they
loved Cleveland. Moved to Atlanta,

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Georgia. Completely transformed our lives.
And when you look at the history of

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or look at their childhood and how
they grew up, statistics would say that

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their future was bleakd but the life
that they gave us the complete opposite of

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what they had. What I know
now is the result of improving their mindset

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along the way and not accepting the
status quo and not just going along with

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what they see growing up, but
to sharpen themselves and better themselves. And

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so that lesson. I didn't even
realize that until I got an adult.

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That lesson has been in me of
being aware of how you think and why

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you think. Since I was just
a little girl. Wow, that's amazing,

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you know, that is amazing because
they were really young. Really,

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yeah, they were really young.
Yeah, they were really young, and

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you would think that being that young, they wouldn't have had that. I

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don't know. I guess the mindset
to do the things that they did and

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work right. Yeah, and this
is before like conferences and like s healthy.

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Like there's just something innate in them. And I'm sure when they got

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together they made each other stronger because
they they were together. To say,

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since my dad, I want to
say, my dad was eighteen or nineteen

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yet, so they were together young. So to do what they did,

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I mean, we moved to Georgia, had an apartment, and then they

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got into a bunch of debt paid
off all their debt, lived by cash.

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I remember them cutting up their credit
cards and then get back to the

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credit card agency like back in the
day, you know. And they built

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a house for us, like from
the ground up. None of us that

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this was like what, we're building
a house? Who does that? What's

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going to happen? We were going
like every week and see the progress that

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this is going to be your bedroom
and this is going to be our bedroom.

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It's nothing they had ever seen before. And I remember while I was

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watching some of your previous episodes and
one of your guests said, you don't

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have to see it to be it, yes, And that reminded me of

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that they had never seen anyone elevate
their lives in that way. But it

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was their mindset and their determination and
their perseverance that allowed them at a young

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age to continually progress. So that's
your mindset. Seeing them do what they

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did sure had a lot to do
with shaping you and the you know,

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the journey that you're on right now. Absolutely, it absolutely did. And

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now I always tell people like especially
with kids, more as caught than talk.

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So they never sat down and said, okay, what we're doing is

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this And when you get older,
you there was never a lecture. There

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was never it was just a watching
and an examining sports. And it's like

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huh. And again as I got
older, it's putting two and two together,

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like, oh, this is what
was actually happening here. You know.

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In my young mind, it's like, oh, we moved here,

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then we did this, and we
did that. Okay, I want to

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switch schools, you know, but
on the grand scheme, it's like,

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no, they had to sharpen themselves, yes, to be able to move

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out of what was projected for them
and projected for their lives. Wow,

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that is awesome. So tell us
because, like I said, with what

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you experienced coming up, tell us, how did you get into coaching and

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speaking? I mean, what brought
you into that arena? Yeah, so

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if you allow my dad to tell
the story, I came out of my

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mother's room talking and asking questions.
That was never a problem for me,

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and I've always had a very inquisitive
mind. So I've always just wanted to

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know why and ask questions. And
my brain is like logistical. I like

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to know how things work now,
you know, growing up, you know,

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within a household with my parents from
that era, the worst thing you

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can do is ask your parents why, and the worst you can do is

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talk about And so I can trouble
a lot growing up. But the thing

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was, I wasn't being defiant,
like I wasn't like being rude, because

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I had major respect for my parents. But when I look at it now,

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I really I wanted to know how
things worked. Yeah, I wanted

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to plead my case, and I
just wanted to know what if you think

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this, well, that's not accurate. So I'm punishment for something that didn't

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actually happen. So we have to
transform that thinking. Care for not having

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it? Wow? Oh, They're
like, no, I don't care.

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I don't care you're talking about I'm
not talking back when I'm really asking.

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If no, if you're talking,
then you're talking aback. But I learned

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from an early age that if you
communicate something effectively, you can change a

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dynamic. Okay, if you communicate
something effectively, you can change someone's thinking,

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you can transform the way they see
something. And I picked up on

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that early on, and of course
they were shutting it down. But I'm

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like, but listen, if you
just hear my part of the story,

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you know what I mean. And
then just as years of progress and just

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being a talker. As they would
say, I always found myself in the

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front of the room, even before
I started doing it professionally, no matter

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what I did, if it was
if I was in a business, a

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company, doing some sort of training, in the church, whatever it was,

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I found myself in the front,
in the front of the room with

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the mic in my hand. And
as you know, public speaking is like

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the second worst fear in the world, next to die hotel. While most

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people would rather die than to get
up and speak, I'm like, well,

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where's the mic. Just give me
the mic to say, well,

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I I bet I can. I
can literally say. You are one of

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those people as a woman that do
not enter the room and sit in the

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back of the room. You're like
going up to the front because you want

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to know where the mic is and
be near the mic. Okay, yes,

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I want to know where the mic
is. I want to know what's

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being said on the mic. I
want to get all the information. That's

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just always in my personality. My
dad has a big personality as well,

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but he is not comfortable speaking in
front of large groups. So I'm like,

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where's the mic, Let's go and
whenever like someone wanted to, even

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if it was a wedding or just
anything where someone needed to address the crowd,

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be it planned or not, they're
like, hi, here, give

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a And so I always found myself
there and just over the years honing my

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skills and things of that nature.
It became a profession. And as far

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as coaching gets concerned, you know, they always say, if you want

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to know who you are, look
at who you were when you were a

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child. And I used to have
this really funny saying that. A friend

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of mine and I joke about that. I used to say when I was

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younger, I would say I am
the giver of truth. And I would

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walk around saying that all the time, and we would laugh about like,

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oh ah, you're just being so
silly, but I would say, no,

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I'm the giver of truth. And
I will always like give these really

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powerful perspectives to people, or someone
would say something to me and like I

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would just be able to navigate the
situation and like, no, this is

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what needs to happen, this is
what I'm seeing, you know, and

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then you know it's just it was
just who I was, and so over

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the years, yeah, yeah,
wow, just kidd. You know,

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I could just see you walking around. It's to you walking around doing that.

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You know, you got your people
going to school, you got your

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books in your hands. Somebody said, am the giver of truth? Okay,

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and I got that term from like
really, wow, he's my best

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my best friend. It's still friends
today. We're about to celebrate thirty years

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of friendship. As a matter of
fact, and we still joke about that.

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You never used to run around say
you were a giver of truth.

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I'm like, look what am I
doing? Now? There you go.

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You are manifesting that right back then? Okay, exactly. But I officially

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got certified, so instead of just
being, you know, just a willing

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nearly give her a truth, I
got certified nine years ago. So I've

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been certified for almost ten years now. And it really makes me come alive

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when I am coaching, like speaking
coaching, they go hand in hand to

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me. But whether I'm doing group
coaching, what I'm doing one on one

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coaching, whatever it is, it
makes me come alive because I know the

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power of perspective. Yeah, and
I know that your perspective on a thing

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can change the trajectory of your life. Yes, And sometimes we just get

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so stuck and we just need someone
to say, oh no, just move

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this over here, just move that
over there, and let me just show

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you a mirror of how awesome you
actually are. And something as simple as

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that can just change someone's life,
make them come alive, and it's like

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they're more bold, they have more
confidence, they're doing things that maybe they

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didn't have the courage to do before, just from someone saying no, let

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me tell you who you really are. Yes, you know, And so

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that it warms my heart, It
truly does. Wow. Now I know

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that you speak selves on limiting beliefs. Yes, to tell us what are

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limiting beliefs, because I can say
right now, I'm not seeing that you

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have now, But tell us what
are limiting beliefs? Well, we all

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have them, we absolutely all have
them. But my personal definition of limiting

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beliefs that I created on my own, so if you go to Google this

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will not come up, but just
in my study and working with clients and

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the existence of that nature, my
definition is continual thoughts or beliefs that you've

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learned or observed about yourself, others, or life that you accept you implement

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as truth that prevents you from becoming
your full authentic self. Okay, So

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it's those things that maybe you learn
from your parents, or you know,

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your leaders, or a bully at
school, or some kind of concept or

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idea of thought about yourself that you've
got. I'm not good enough, I'm

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not smart enough, I'm not wise
enough. I don't have the credentials that

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I need. But I can't climb
up the corporate ritter, doctor Matt,

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I don't have what it takes.
I'm going to be stuck here. You

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know, those are limiting beliefs,
things that are stopping you. I can

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only be, you know, a
wife and a mom. I can't be

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a businesswoman like whatever. It is
the beliefs that are stopping you. I

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like to say, wherever you feel
stuck, stagnant, or stationary, there

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is a limiting belief that is invading
your thoughts. Wow. Wow, So

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why do you feel it's important to
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will allow you to go to the
next level. We all have big dreams,

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we have aspirations. When we are
lying in bed at night and the

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house is quiet and no one is
around, no matter what we've done throughout

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the day or what we're doing in
our life. We have things that we're

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thriving for on a micro level and
a macro level. And I believe that

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the first step in any level of
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become a way or to become aware, you first have to ask yourself deep,

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meaningful questions. And I think one
of the most powerful questions you can

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ask yourself about a belief or how
you see something is but why? But

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why? Why do I believe that? Why do I think I can't start

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this business? Why do I believe
I can't climb the corporate ladder. Why

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do I believe I won't be successful? Why do I believe I can't lose

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this weight? Why do I believe
I can't buy a new hull? Why

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do I believe I can't relocate?
Yes, And when you start asking yourself

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those questions and identifying the beliefs that
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are, again, micro macro could
be something as I don't think I can

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cook. I have a friend who
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I can't cook. I'm not a
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this is going to be the year
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we all know cooking gives a larned
skill. Right, Yes, she's an

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amazing cook. Wow. Now because
she decided, you know, why would

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what's not saying I wasn't a cook
cook, I never even gave myself the

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chance. So she started getting cookbooks
and looking at recipes online, and now

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she's able to like put stuff together
on her own and she creates these beautiful

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gourmet meals from the woman six months
ago that said I need cook. So

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just something as small as that,
but that can go from something like that

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to something as large as don't want
to start a business, I want to

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build an empire. It's the same
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you're assigning meaning to because our thoughts
and beliefs only have the meanings that we

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assigned to them. Right. So
if I say Cleveland, Ohio is significant

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to me, well, Cleveland,
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So the meaning for me is where
my parents grew up childhood. I lived

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here until I was four. I
have aunts, uncles, and cousins.

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You know, maybe a song he
listened to, Oh, well, this

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was a song that we're reminded me
of when I was a child. But

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you hear that song, You're like, never heard of it before? Right?

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You know what I'm saying. So
the same thing with our thoughts and

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beliefs, we attached meaning to it, and we have to ask ourselves why

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have I attached this meaning to it? And then if it's causing me to

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be stuck, stacking or stationary,
how can I move away from that?

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Wow? Wow, that is interesting. So tell us about your journey and

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how and why you started, you
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Yes, so I have been in
the personal development space for years as

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long as I can well, I
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I'll say in my twenties, my
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becoming interested in personal development conferences,
reading different books and things of that nature.

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And so I was already on the
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But when everything changed for me in
a deep way is when I got pregnant

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with our son. With my son, and I said I didn't want to

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have any kids. I had plenty
of nieces, nephews, got children,

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mentees. I was like the young
and free childless aunt that would take in

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all the kids and then send them
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just have fun with them. But
our son was I call them a

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beautiful surprise. Because I got pregnant
six years into the marriage. I'm like,

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oh my god, what are we
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we're going to raise the child,
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so me becoming pregnant, I had
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ask myself before because I didn't think
I was gonna have kids. And it

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just it prompted a lot of things
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Okay, because just thinking, I'm
a deep thinker. So it's like,

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okay, well, even though you're
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to be here in a few months, you know. And even though they

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don't come out talking or understanding you
know, deep concepts, at some point,

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you're gonna have to teach them about
life. Yeah, And so I

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start asking myself, well, what
do you want to teach him? What

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do you want him to know?
What what you know? Belief structure do

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you want him to have? What
are you going to teach him about God?

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What are you going to teach him
about, you know, his personal

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sovereignty? What are you going to
teach him about his personal power and his

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confidence and what he can do and
not do? Like what are you going

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to teach him? Like? How
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I started examining, when I tell
you, doctor Madlin, I examined from

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the top to the bottom all of
my beliefs, things that I was afraid

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to tell people. I was questioning
because it's just, you know, some

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of those things you just learn as
a child, and this is just what

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we believe, because this is what
our family believe, this is what our

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answers is believe, and this is
what we're taught to believe, or this

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is the way of life, and
this is the way you do things.

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I just and I said, I
don't want to just pass down stuff for

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the sake of passing stuff down.
When was the last time anybody has been

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intentional about what we believe, not
just saying I'm going to teach them this

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because my grandmother said this is the
right way, and then her great grandmother

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said this is the right like what
was true that there's you know, there

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is a thing of you know of
timeless wisdom that's passed down. But there's

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also some things that were true for
our family members that are no longer true

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for us. I mean, when
I think about my own life, it's

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things that were true for me ten
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me today. Yes, you know, I was a different woman ten years

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ago, five years ago, two
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like a rehaul. And I remember
even thinking about growing up with my parents

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and I would, you know,
ask why about things? And the answer

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was because I said so yeah,
And I mean, and you know,

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I could get it there, like
you know, you don't question authority.

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But it's like I'm asking you why
because I'm trying to formulate my own belief

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Yes, I'm not trying to be
disrespectful. I'm trying to formulate what I

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believe and how I want to show
up in this world. So even now

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my son is six, I allow
him to ask me why. I allow

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him to probe me. I allow
him to dig deep and challenge me,

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even at six. I want him
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do is go out in the world
and accept what they have to say about

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you. Absolutely, if someone said
something or call you something or tells you

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what you can't do. You're gonna
look at them as if they're calling you

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a bird, like what bird?
What do you mean? I can't do

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that? Really lose? Of course
I can. I can accomplish this that

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that's what you're saying is not true. But that comes from instealing that.

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But I had to evaluate what I
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In my own confidence levels and what
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okay, son, this is this
and that is that and again he's so

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we're still in the beginning stages,
but I am I have because of undoing

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all of those things. I have
more confidence and how he's raised right,

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things that I share with him,
and how I even allow him to explore

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you know what I mean and they
mean mine. You know, when he's

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in a situation where someone may be
doing something that kind of borderline not right

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or whatever, he can make up
his own mind. Am I gonna go

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with the crowd or am I gonna
stand on what I've been taught, my

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values, what I know you know, is right, and not worry about

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if they're gonna be you know,
not like me anymore. You know,

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how kids now, especially nowadays kids
are into the senior school. Everybody they

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want everybody to like them, and
so to do that, they go along

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with whatever is going on. But
if you that where withal to think for

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your self, to believe that what
your decision is right for you exactly following

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someone off for Cliff, you know, exactly exactly. Wow. And he's

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actually already at that stage where he's
like, I think that's the right thing

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to do. That's not very pride. I think you're breaking the room.

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M m. Sometimes he takes it
overboard, but I know he gets that

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because I have already taught him and
continuing to teach him how to speak up

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for himself, how to be firm
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You know. So he's already you
know, exhibiting that good That's great,

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That is awesome. So how can
this way of thinking be applied to

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women in the professional space? Yeah, So, like we mentioned earlier,

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this crosses barriers of all areas in
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the work that you're doing, doctor
Madeline. You know I've heard you say

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that you even work on mindset with
your clients because if a woman wants to

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climb the ranks, the first thing
she has to work on is her mind

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around being able to claim the ranks
exactly. Yeah, Because if she works

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with you, and you know,
you're doing all this mental work and all

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or doing all this work and strategy, but deep down she doesn't believe in

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her heart that she can have exactly, it doesn't matter. Yeah. And

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so even that in the professional field, like whatever it is you're going for,

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you first have to know that you
are worthy, yeah, that you

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are enough that you can accomplish whatever
it is you set your mind to,

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yes, And if you don't,
that is where the work of limiting beliefs

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come in because you have to ask
why don't I feel like I can accomplish

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this, Why don't I feel worthy
enough? Why don't I feel like I'm

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enough? And things that I have
worked with clients on that have been you

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know, revealed as I mean something
like I don't think I can climb the

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ranks and make more money because that
would mean that I would make more money

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than my husband, And according to
what I've been taught and what I believe,

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the man has to be the break
yeah. Yeah. And so not

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realizing that they are subconsciously sabotaging themselves
because of a belief that was rooted,

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not because their mom, grandmother,
aunt uncle said hey, little Susie,

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you better never make more to your
husband. But that's because that's what they

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but just because that's what they always
saw, thought exactly exactly, And so

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the pattern was the man is the
great woman when or the woman she's you

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know, she's me the homemaker.
But if she's not the homemaker and she

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happens to have a job or she
she will still be the homemaker and have

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a job. You want to be
a home mak her and she will have

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a job, but she will just
contribute. She won't be the bread winner,

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right because then if she's the bread
winner, then that would mean that

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she's going to be, you know, taking the role of the leader of

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the home. And we don't want
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not knowing that all of that chatter
is what's at play. And so then

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when the position or opportunity presents itself
to elevate yourself in the workplace, you're

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like, oh, no, I
can't do it. I'm not exactly if

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in line with what I what I
say is on my talk when I talk

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about, you know, how men
will apply for a position when they have

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only sixty percent of the requirements,
But a woman will look at that same

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exact posting and she feels she has
to have chance to be able to check

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every box one hundred percent before she
will apply. What's difference if they have

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sixty you have sixty. What's the
difference? But she will not apply if

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she doesn't feel she has one hundred
percent of the requirements. And it's it

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just me yes. And that's the
mindset because the men feel like they can

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step into that position and what they
don't, they'll learn it, you know.

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But most women won't take that type
of attitude. They won't, they

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will not. Yes, right,
And that's an area where you would ask

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yourself deep questions like why do I
do that to myself? Yes, absolutely,

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and giving yourself the space to tell
yourself the truth, to tell yourself

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the truth and then put the steps
in place to make the change. M

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hm wow. And so I guess
that brings us into the next question.

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If someone wanted to start the journey
of identifying and examining their own limiting beliefs,

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where would you suggest that they start
that whole process. Yeah, so

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awareness, awareness is the first step
any level of transformation, any level of

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anything. I mean, before you
get before you t take off of the

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plane, the pilot has to know
where he's going. So hope, So

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I gotta stop because I thought about
something. I remember when I was in

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the military and we were going I
think we were going to uh Fort Apa.

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We were going to Fort Chaffy.
That's where we're going, and from

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where I lived. To get there, you had to take these little small

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planes, you know, And one
of them got on and the pilots the

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door to where the pilot said that
it was open, and I happened to

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look over and you know, just
to see, and they were sitting and

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I saw him pull out a map, and I thought, oh, that

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was my first thought. I can't
believe he's pulling out a map and we're

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about to get in the air and
need he obviously don't really know where he's

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go He should have been pulling that
out prior to hell so that I wouldn't

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see it. That just came,
Oh my gosh, I would have been

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terrified, like getting lost, I
tell you what that was. That was

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definitely an experience and you know,
uh, military can't just say Okay,

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he don't know where he's going,
I want to get off here. It's

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like I'm right, oh's exactly.
That's the point, Like you have to

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know where you're starting, right,
And I always say, in order to

412
00:31:40.519 --> 00:31:42.359
do that, you have to be
you have to get quiet with yourself.

413
00:31:42.720 --> 00:31:48.000
We get so busy doing because we
have responsibilities, right always, Yeah,

414
00:31:48.119 --> 00:31:52.160
yeah, we have lots of responsibilities. We wear a lot of hats,

415
00:31:52.160 --> 00:31:53.880
we do a lot of things,
we have a lot of tasks. But

416
00:31:53.960 --> 00:32:00.440
it's like we get so busy doing
that we never be we're not being mm

417
00:32:00.519 --> 00:32:06.279
hmm. But in order to really
stop the patterns and the habits and the

418
00:32:06.359 --> 00:32:10.519
self sabotaging behavior, we have to
first get quiet, and we have to

419
00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:15.599
first have awareness of, Okay,
this is where I actually am. No

420
00:32:15.640 --> 00:32:19.119
matter what kind of journeys on,
I want on a weight loss journey.

421
00:32:19.119 --> 00:32:22.200
And it's like, okay, I
was afraid to step on the scale and

422
00:32:22.279 --> 00:32:28.119
admit to myself where I was.
How can you expect to go on this

423
00:32:28.200 --> 00:32:31.160
journey and to get healthier if you
won't even step on the scale and say,

424
00:32:31.240 --> 00:32:35.640
oh, this is where I am, or even if it's a you

425
00:32:35.680 --> 00:32:38.000
know, a health journey and not
wanting to get your blood taken or your

426
00:32:38.039 --> 00:32:43.319
your your numbers ran and or or
you know, test done. Like you

427
00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:46.160
have to know where you are to
make improvements to where you want to be

428
00:32:46.880 --> 00:32:54.960
exactly. That's definitely the first step. Wow, wow, it's it is

429
00:32:55.079 --> 00:33:00.200
you know when you think about it. Though a lot of people don't do

430
00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:06.680
that. They don't sit down an
route you know where, because, like

431
00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:09.599
you say, you have to if
you're going on a journey, and no

432
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matter what it is, you know, like you said, the weight loss,

433
00:33:13.240 --> 00:33:16.119
or if you're trying to move up
or you know, you first of

434
00:33:16.160 --> 00:33:20.279
all, you need to know I
always say, you know, got to

435
00:33:20.359 --> 00:33:22.200
have some clarity questions. You need
to know why you want to do it

436
00:33:22.200 --> 00:33:25.960
in the first place, because that's
another thing. You need to know why

437
00:33:27.000 --> 00:33:30.640
you want to do it. But
once you if you know why, you

438
00:33:30.640 --> 00:33:35.440
know whatever that read, whatever that
why is, then you have to figure

439
00:33:35.480 --> 00:33:37.680
out, okay, then what's keeping
you from doing it? And I noticed

440
00:33:37.759 --> 00:33:43.759
there are times, especially individuals that
tend to work in the and I noticed

441
00:33:43.799 --> 00:33:46.480
that tend to work in a federal
government. They get so complacent in the

442
00:33:46.519 --> 00:33:52.079
positions that they're in that a lot
of times don't want to move. And

443
00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:57.279
so you're why I can't get promoted. Well, maybe you just can't get

444
00:33:57.279 --> 00:34:02.200
promoted in that particular office or in
that particular right. It requires you to

445
00:34:02.240 --> 00:34:08.519
do something different, exactly exactly,
but it's the comfortability, you know,

446
00:34:08.639 --> 00:34:13.960
comfortability. They don't want to move
because it's what they know. You know,

447
00:34:14.119 --> 00:34:16.320
I'm used to this, I'm used
to these people. I'm used to

448
00:34:16.360 --> 00:34:20.519
coming in at a certain time and
I can leave at a certain time.

449
00:34:20.880 --> 00:34:22.239
Well, if you're trying to move
up the ladder, these things are going

450
00:34:22.320 --> 00:34:28.480
to have to change. Yeah,
well, you're absolutely right. You know.

451
00:34:28.559 --> 00:34:32.320
I like to say that our growth
and evolution requires something of us.

452
00:34:32.760 --> 00:34:36.360
Yes, and we like to just
say, oh I want this and I

453
00:34:36.360 --> 00:34:37.920
want that, and I want to
do this and I want to do that.

454
00:34:37.960 --> 00:34:42.679
But we don't leave room what we
have to do to get it,

455
00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:45.239
because it's not going to just fall
from the sky. And you know,

456
00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:50.639
sometimes people think, and that's why
I also say, no one owes you

457
00:34:50.679 --> 00:34:53.800
a promotion. They don't. No
one owes you a promotion, and so

458
00:34:54.000 --> 00:34:58.320
you do have to work for it. You know, you can't there and

459
00:34:58.400 --> 00:35:01.400
think, you know, just because
you're GS. Whatever the next next GS

460
00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:06.840
level that comes up, you're automatically
supposed to get it. That's not true,

461
00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:09.079
and a lot of times that's what
they feel, like, Oh,

462
00:35:09.159 --> 00:35:14.519
well, my position goes you know, it's seven nine eleven. So in

463
00:35:14.559 --> 00:35:16.920
the year I'm supposed to get I'm
a seven down a year I'm supposed to

464
00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:22.760
get my nine not necessarily what you're
doing to earn it? What are you

465
00:35:22.880 --> 00:35:28.480
doing to get there? How are
you blocking yourself or either how are you

466
00:35:28.559 --> 00:35:34.239
making yourself visible so that they know
do you know the nine level? So

467
00:35:34.400 --> 00:35:37.519
it's like you say, and sometimes
it's because of fear. You know.

468
00:35:38.559 --> 00:35:43.039
Once they get to that eleven,
then they stop like, oh, I

469
00:35:43.079 --> 00:35:46.000
can't go any further because my position
doesn't go any further. Well, then

470
00:35:46.039 --> 00:35:50.800
that means you have to look for
something else, don't you think? Right?

471
00:35:52.639 --> 00:35:55.800
If you want to grow now you
want to stay the same. If

472
00:35:55.800 --> 00:36:00.320
you want to you want to grow, then you gotta do something different here

473
00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:04.840
kick in or that the limiting beliefs, that's when that kicks in, because

474
00:36:04.880 --> 00:36:08.000
at that point it's like, oh
no, now I know, you know,

475
00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:12.880
they really have to start reaching for
something. And that's where yes,

476
00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:17.480
they have to start reaching now for
what they want. It's not automatic.

477
00:36:17.639 --> 00:36:21.719
It's not going to be given to
you. You have to start reaching or

478
00:36:21.719 --> 00:36:24.079
you have to start doing some work, and you have to start doing some

479
00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:29.880
work on yourselves. Absolutely, yeah, that's the thing, because then the

480
00:36:29.880 --> 00:36:32.039
next thing is a lot of times
you don't realize that the growth that we

481
00:36:32.079 --> 00:36:37.239
want, the promotion that we want, we have to become the person that

482
00:36:37.280 --> 00:36:42.239
can sustain that. And many times
the reason why those things are coming to

483
00:36:42.280 --> 00:36:45.840
fruition because we have to become a
person that can even handle something like that.

484
00:36:45.880 --> 00:36:50.440
Really absolutely, so that's the thing
of it requiring something of you.

485
00:36:50.480 --> 00:36:52.559
Of yes, doing your due diligence
and applying in those things of that nature.

486
00:36:52.559 --> 00:36:55.519
But like you said, that work
on yourself, because if you want

487
00:36:55.519 --> 00:36:59.320
to be a person in an elevated
position, you have to behave in an

488
00:36:59.320 --> 00:37:01.880
elevate way, and your beliefs and
how you show up and how you see

489
00:37:01.920 --> 00:37:07.679
yourself and how you see others,
like it requires an elevation of all of

490
00:37:07.719 --> 00:37:12.599
you, and we like to especially
in the professional space, is a big

491
00:37:12.639 --> 00:37:15.320
part your mindset. Like you said, your beliefs, don't sta all that

492
00:37:15.400 --> 00:37:21.679
place a big part in it.
It really really does place a big part.

493
00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:24.840
So if there was one thing or
one piece of advice you could tell

494
00:37:24.880 --> 00:37:32.119
women, what would that be.
It would be to remember who you are.

495
00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:38.599
Remember who you are. Like I
said, women are powerful, and

496
00:37:38.679 --> 00:37:44.440
we are capable, and we are
strong and we are multi faceted. That

497
00:37:44.559 --> 00:37:49.400
we have been tricked into believing that
we are not enough. Oh my goodness,

498
00:37:49.480 --> 00:37:52.119
yes, like I said, we're
the greatest resource on this planet.

499
00:37:52.599 --> 00:37:59.719
Yeah, but we have been tricked
into believing who we are. We do

500
00:38:00.119 --> 00:38:06.199
all the things. Look at the
just any woman one moment that does one

501
00:38:06.239 --> 00:38:10.360
thing, Yeah, just one thing. Yeah. And it's like we are

502
00:38:10.519 --> 00:38:14.840
so powerful and I mean the way
we carry ourselves, in the way that

503
00:38:14.840 --> 00:38:16.639
we can do things that we have
been tricked out of it, I think,

504
00:38:16.679 --> 00:38:21.719
and we've been tricked into believing that
we're not back. Yeah. And

505
00:38:21.760 --> 00:38:25.719
so in order to elevate and reach
those goals, we have to first remember

506
00:38:27.559 --> 00:38:31.360
who am I Who am amazing,
I am powerful. I can do this.

507
00:38:31.880 --> 00:38:36.639
Even if I don't have everything that
I need, I would be connected

508
00:38:36.679 --> 00:38:39.039
with someone that will help me get
what I need. You know what I

509
00:38:39.119 --> 00:38:44.559
mean, Like it's always an answer
that that will find me. And knowing

510
00:38:44.599 --> 00:38:46.039
him believing that. But you have
to first sit and say, no,

511
00:38:46.159 --> 00:38:52.840
I can do this. I am
born for this. Whatever I even desiring

512
00:38:53.239 --> 00:38:57.400
is desiring me. Like, wait
a minute, it's like you have to

513
00:38:57.440 --> 00:39:01.119
have a recomend of sorts. Yes, like a pull on your own collar.

514
00:39:05.639 --> 00:39:09.519
Absolutely right about that. Wow,
I tell you, so tell us

515
00:39:09.719 --> 00:39:14.960
h E, what is next?
What's next? What do you have coming

516
00:39:15.039 --> 00:39:17.559
up on the horizon that you might
want us to know about? Anything you

517
00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:22.119
want to share with us? Yeah. So I actually have a free resource

518
00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:29.400
for your audience. It is a
seven step process to identifying and releasing limiting

519
00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:30.800
beliefs. I actually came up with
this framework that I do by one on

520
00:39:30.800 --> 00:39:34.920
one client. But there's a free
resource that I have available for your audience.

521
00:39:35.280 --> 00:39:37.039
If they go to the fight I
think you have. I see it

522
00:39:37.079 --> 00:39:44.079
strolling on the screen. Yeah,
they episode that they can get the information

523
00:39:44.280 --> 00:39:49.280
to get it. Yeah, the
link. Yes, that is an amazing

524
00:39:49.400 --> 00:39:51.760
it's more than a first step.
Like I said, it's seven steps,

525
00:39:51.760 --> 00:39:57.320
but it is an amazing resource to
really journal, ask yourself those meaningful questions,

526
00:39:57.400 --> 00:40:00.719
really dig deep so you can see
what are the things that are stopping

527
00:40:00.760 --> 00:40:02.760
you from from where you want to
go? And where you want to be.

528
00:40:05.400 --> 00:40:08.920
Wow. So if our audience wanted
to reach out to you to get

529
00:40:08.960 --> 00:40:15.199
more information to maybe work with you
in some way, how can they find

530
00:40:15.280 --> 00:40:21.480
you? Yes, they can find
me my website if I am chi dot

531
00:40:21.480 --> 00:40:23.880
com and on there if you would
like me to speak to your audience,

532
00:40:24.079 --> 00:40:27.880
or I do group coaching, I
do one on one coaching as well.

533
00:40:27.960 --> 00:40:31.280
I have all the information there.
I might also be reached via email Hello

534
00:40:31.320 --> 00:40:37.960
at imachi dot com, on Facebook
at mckeechern, and I am on Instagram

535
00:40:37.400 --> 00:40:43.239
at Chi Denise. And I'm also
on LinkedIn, so I'm everywhere you type

536
00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:47.360
in my name, it's just you. That's where I followed you on LinkedIn,

537
00:40:47.639 --> 00:40:52.599
so I definitely know you're on LinkedIn. Yes, I am all over

538
00:40:52.679 --> 00:40:55.119
the place, so you type in. My name is unique. So you

539
00:40:55.159 --> 00:40:59.519
type my name in and you will
find me all the places. Yes,

540
00:40:59.599 --> 00:41:04.480
and make sure you put it as
a C H I E and not H

541
00:41:05.400 --> 00:41:08.159
H I E. Yes, that
happens. I kept saying, well,

542
00:41:08.199 --> 00:41:12.280
why isn't it coming up? I
know she's there, and then I looked

543
00:41:12.280 --> 00:41:14.480
at it. I said, that's
because you're putting the R and then I

544
00:41:14.559 --> 00:41:19.440
kept get this guy coming up but
it's not a guy. And then you

545
00:41:19.480 --> 00:41:23.840
know what, all of the way, she's a c H I E.

546
00:41:25.239 --> 00:41:29.760
I love it. I love it. Thank you so much for joining us

547
00:41:29.800 --> 00:41:34.880
today and sharing your great nuggets with
us. It was a pleasure. It

548
00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:38.800
definitely was a pleasure to have you
on the show. So thank you for

549
00:41:38.840 --> 00:41:42.760
having me. This has been amazing. It's an honor to be here.

550
00:41:42.800 --> 00:41:45.239
I enjoyed my time with you.
Thank you so much for having me.

551
00:41:45.880 --> 00:41:51.079
Thank you. So I am now
gonna let everyone know what's coming up next,

552
00:41:51.199 --> 00:41:54.079
what we have, what will be
going on. As you know,

553
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you can still get copies of the
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It Unapologetically and the journal three hundred
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copy, you can email me at
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to my website www dot EXWSI dot
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Black Business Olympics this month. It's
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The Black Business Olympics is a fundraiser
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563
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school seniors going to college and k
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showcases black business, black business owners
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565
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566
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me at info at EXWSI dot com. Just put in the subject line speaker

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getting you, find out your topic
and get you on the schedule. I

569
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will be speaking that week on Thursday
night at seven pm, So again,

570
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if you want to get the link
to be able to watch the episodes,

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you can also email me for that. Coming up on the horizon in January

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twenty fifth through the twenty seven,
twenty twenty four is going to be my

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show up to Rise Up Women's Virtual
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the event or to be a speaker
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at info at ex w SI And
we also have coming up is the you'll

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be able to join the Show Up
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the mission of the network will be
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career, business, professional and personal
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Again, I would like to thank
my guests, missus h E.

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Mcichern. I want to make sure
I pronounce her name correctly. Beautiful name.

602
00:46:37.800 --> 00:46:39.320
I love it, so I don't
want to mess it up. And

603
00:46:39.559 --> 00:46:45.159
I also want to thank my viewers
and my listeners for joining me today.

604
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This has been the success for women's
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605
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and if you'd like to reach out
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607
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they can get the benefit of the great

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nuggets that we got today from our
guests. Again, this is the success

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for women's show. We are here
every week. I am your host,

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doctor Madeline and Lewis helping women to
accelerate the path to success. Thank you

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again to my viewers, listeners,
and to my guests for joining me.

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I love you all to life and
as always, be well and stay safe

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out there. I got the