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the fast track to success. Well, hello, and welcome to the Success

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Well, today's topic and I am
so excited because she's joining us in the

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month of March, which is with
Women's History Month, So we're gonna be

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talking today about let's get dressed.
And my guess is coming to us from

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Canada to kind of give us some
tips on how to look good all the

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time. So the topic today,
as I said, is let's get dressed,

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and my guest is Renee Lindo.
Let me just give you a little

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background on her. Renee Lindo is
a personal stylist based in Toronto, Canada,

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serving clients globally so you can still
reach out to her no matter where

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you are. She has been a
sense of style and corporate sales background,

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and she is perfectly positioned to guide
professional women on their style journey so that

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they can show up as the best
version of themselves. Renee helps her clients

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to save time and increase confidence by
creating polished and functional wardrobes so that they

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can attract career building opportunities. Her
philosophy is when women look good, they

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feel great, and this gives them
the confidence to put their hands up for

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more. Renee is passionate about helping
women show up as their most authentic selves

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and believes when your outward appearance is
aligned with who you are on the inside,

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that is when you are your most
powerful. I'd like to bring to

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the show today, miss Renee Lindo. Thank you, thank you. Up

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to Lewis, It's great to be
here, great to be here. I'm

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glad to finally get you here.
I mean, you're just so busy all

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over the place. You talk about
looking you got these nice outfits on looking

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cool and everything. So you tell
us how you do it. But before

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we get started. I always give
the standard bio on my guests, but

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then I like to ask the guests, just tell us what you want us

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to know about Renee Lindo. Sure
you know I am. I'm passionation about

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helping women to really top into the
power of their style. I think it's

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a it's a hopeful tool that I
don't think we really understand and leverage as

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much as we could. Uh,
And it really when we get it right

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and really understand how to use our
style, it really expands what we're available

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for. And that that really I'm
jazzed by that. It is so exciting

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for me to see women kind of
move from where they are to where they

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want to go using their style and
the confidence it gives them to really show

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up for more. Wow. Now, what is our uh your style story?

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How can we use it? Or
everybody's style store? I guess because

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you work with a lot of women, mostly women? Right, No,

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not me, it's mostly women,
but I do work with men. Yes,

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what is our style story and how
can we use it to advance our

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careers or our business? Yes?
So you know when I when I think

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of style story, it you know, we all have a story, and

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how we show up is our style
story. How we use our clothing and

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our style to really communicate and have
it do the heavy lifting for us is

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our style story. And I have
actually because I find that when we're able

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to give a confident, consistent story, right, we're communicating to our audience

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who we are and what we're about. Actually created a framework that I take

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clients to that I call your style
story. And you, just like any

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story or movie that you're you're watching, there are a few key elements that

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really help us to be memorable,
helps the story to have a confident story,

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to be consistent, and it really
just aligns with a story. Right.

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You start off with being clear before
you write a story or before a

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movie is made. There's clarity,
right, what is this story going to

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be about? Similarly, with your
style, you want to think about,

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well, who am I? How
do I want to move through the world?

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You know what? What resonates with
me? So we start with clarity

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and then another another aspect of a
story is a story happens somewhere, right,

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there's a scene. And for our
style story, I say that's your

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closet. This is where everything kind
of comes to life, right, whether

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whether you're if you're going to whatever
you're going to create that date, it

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starts in your closet. So we
really talk about creating a closet that works

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for you, a closet that's filled
pieces that work for you now that it's

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not a museum of a life you
used to live or a size you used

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to be, but really what what
what suits you now and the lifestyle that

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you're living, whether it's will work
and and and or professional or personal.

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And then every story there is a
main character and of course style that main

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character is you, right, so
we really get we get clear on how

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how do you address our body?
You know, as we age, I'm

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mature, our body is change and
what if it doesn't fit or it fits

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differently? So we really get clear
on your body shape and how to dress

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this body shape? What, what
flatters? What? What? How we

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bring attention to areas that we like
and maybe not and not so attention to

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aras that we don't like. And
then we go on to the wardrobe.

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You think of a movie, right, so you can tell so much about

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the characters in a movie by their
wardrobe. Excuse me, similarly with you.

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So we spend time really in your
in your plaster with your wardrobe,

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creating outfits that are easy for you, that easily you can easily put together,

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whether it's professional, whether it's personal, to really tell your story,

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to communicate whatever it is that you
want. And it's really about building a

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wardrobe that's functional, right, that
you can mix and and create great pieces

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and great outfits so you feel good. And then the last of your story

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is the supporting cast. Every story
movie there's a supporting cast. If it

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was us about you, that maybe
a little bit boring, so, but

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the supporting cast for your style.
You know, we talk about color,

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the colors that look great on you. We talk about your accessories and how

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to use your accessories to allow your
personality to come through to you know,

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to tell, to allow people to
know you a little bit more. And

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so when we put all of those
elements together, it really helps us to

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feel confident, helps us still have
that, you know, just to be

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able to communicate who we are and
how we want to show up. And

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so using that whether progressing yourself and
your career, whether you're the face of

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your business, that's a huge tool. Wow, to be able to get

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it right now. I gotta ask
this question because friend of mine, we're

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always going back and forth over this
one here. How much should we pay

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attention to the trends when we're dressing? I mean, I mean, because

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you know, things change, and
if you look at the trends, some

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of that stuff was way back when
and it's just repurposing coming back today.

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And so you know, I'm one
of these people that I don't go out

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every time something changes. I don't
go out and you know, get that

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particular follow that trend. But how
important is it or is it important to

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follow trends? This is such a
great question, and I'm so glad you

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asked, because first of all,
there's a there's a few differences between trendy

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and trends, right, So trends
just kind of tell the this is what

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the designers kind of tell us,
this is what they're they want us to

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wear or we're seeing. We see
a lot of it. It's we're easy

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easy to get these pieces in store
because they are what's the latest thing.

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When you're a trendy, it just
it means that you're constantly buying these trend

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pieces, right, which is not
sustainable, and you don't build a great

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functional wardrobe just chasing the trends.
Constantly chase your trends. First of all,

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that's very expensive, and then you're
not allowing your you to really show

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up and say who you are.
What is important when I when I work

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with plans and we're talking about your
wardrobe, a great functional wardrobe really is

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about eighty percent i'd say basics,
right, your wardrobe basics the pieces that

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and basics don't mean boring, but
basics with big pieces that you reach for

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all the time, these pieces that
you know you make your great outfits with,

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that you love to wear, that
look great on your body. And

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about twenty percent are trend pieces,
pieces that you say, hmm, you

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know that's interesting, I'm going to
try that, but you're not. Your

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entire wardrobe is not filled with trends
because you're constantly doing this and you don't

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want that. So you want to
create a wardrobe that's i'd say bounce.

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If you think of a meal,
right with your With a meal, you

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have your proteins, you have your
carbs. The dessert is just a little,

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a little sprinkling, right, So
similar thing to think about. So,

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but I need to say this as
well, especially for folks who are

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in the job market. If you're
going getting back into the job market.

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Now, if you're a maybe a
I like to say, an experience rich

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employee, I'm retired too. Okay, you have to work out working or

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anything like that. You don't have
to, right, but especially if you're

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in the job market and you're looking
for a job or we're hearing so much

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of that is happening, you want
to look current. That's the thing.

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You're not necessarily trendy, but the
important piece is that you're looking current because

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again, you're communicating something you're always
communicating by just how you show up.

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Wow. Now, okay, give
me an example of what you mean by

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current. What would what would you
say would be an example today? Okay?

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Absolutely? So you know before so
before pandemic, we usually or not

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usually, but let's just say,
a more formal suit, maybe more fitted,

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more kind of more structured, was
more or less what people were to

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work. That's what was deemed professional. Okay. Now you know that styles

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have changed, office cultures have changed. We're dressing much more more relaxed,

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but we're still we still want to
look professional and appropriate for work. So

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looking current could mean and I know
in certain clients I've worked with, they

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may think that, okay, professional
only means I have to wear a suit,

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so they get so they're wearing their
full fitted suit formal to work.

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That can lookated because that's not what
we're doing. Now, you can still

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look professional. The blazer is going
to be a little bit more relaxed,

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it's not going to be as fitted
and tied, even though overall silow way

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is going to be a little bit
looser. So just things like that to

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not hold on to Okay, this
is what professional was, and then you

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continue that for years and years.
Things change, styles change, and you

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want to look current because what I
say is on LinkedIn all the time.

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If you show up dated or if
you show up looking like you're a little

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behind the times, people assume that
your skills are also dated, right,

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because they can't because people are judging
us always right. We're always being judged.

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Split second, people are judging,
So you want to ensure that you

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look current because then you're communicating that
I have my finger on the pulse,

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I know what's happening in my industry. I I'm not stucking my ways.

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That's another thing that they want folks
stuck in their ways. Employers are looking

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for people who are adaptable, people
who are open to change, growth mindsets.

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So all of those things are important
and you can communicate that with your

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staff. Wow. Now when you
say, uh, stuck in your ways,

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because I guess I tend to be
that way, are you meaning that?

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Are you meaning that I don't want
to change? Say, for example,

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if I like pin Strive suits,
then I'm just not gonna wear anything

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but pins Strive suits. No,
I'm talking about stuck in your ways when

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it comes to work. So if
you know, right, so they want

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they employers really want you to not
not to be not be the person who

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says, this is how we've always
done it, so this is how it's

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going to be. Right. They
want you to be open minded, growth

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mindset. Right, So those things
are are important. Okay, So just

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so what I'm saying the point I'm
making if you're you're showing up in this

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very very formal suit I used to
wear, it doesn't show that you're open

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to change. It shows that this
is what was professional. And I'm sicking

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to it and I'm always going to
wear that. You understand what I'm saying.

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So that's that's really what we're communicating. We communicate all the time with

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holy show up. Wow. Now
one of the things I did years and

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years ago, and I don't know, maybe I should revisit that because you

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mentioned about colors, I went and
had a color assessment. Of course I

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got on the color today that was
not in that palette. But because I'm

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supposed to be a winter and you
know, winter is like the blues and

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the pretty pinks and different colors like
that. And how important is that you

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know your colors? Because I actually
do love blues. I love pinks and

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gray, and believe it or not, one of the things the lady did,

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I remember, she showed me like
she put on a color like she

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would she put on I think it
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a beige color. She put it
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that away and she put like a
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much you light up just from the
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Does that change as you age?
You know your colors? Uh? Should

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in other words, should I go
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winter person or not, or that
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don't think you're that really changes you
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say that you are a winter I
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right, it's really important to do
the dripping. But those similar those colors

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look great on you, right,
those those deep the deep greens, like

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kind of vibrant colors. Right.
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reds, they the very vibrant colors. But yeah, as you age,

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not really and maybe maybe you may
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usually your your colors are more or
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And as I said, I I
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things and different outfits that you have
on, and sometimes you look so well

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put together. But it's not like
you're dressed like you're going to an opera

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something, but you're still you still
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I've seen you where you just sit
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and a jacket and I'm looking,
I'm like, that really looks pulled together,

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you know. And I'm just yesterday
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to like jeans, but now yes, jeans, and I'm the same way.

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I didn't used to be a jeans
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That's not my first to outfit or
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you were saying, it made sense, you know, because jeans have changed,

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you know, so much since,
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they repurpose and all of that exactly
exactly. But that's so true, you

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know. And that's another point,
right, As we age and mature and

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as we grow, we change as
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humans. We change, and it's
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with us because you don't want to
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right, and you feel like you're
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to change and evolve, just as
as your style does. And you know,

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you may have thought you were fabulous
ten years ago, but you can

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still be fabulous now. It's just
maybe it just may look different. Right.

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So that's also my point is that
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oh that the ship has passed.
We're on that state, we're on that

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ship and it can still be like
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boy, I thought the words absolutely, no way right, And I don't

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believe in that you know a certain
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thing and stylis for certain absolutely not. Style is available at all ages,

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all sizes. It is really about
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you think? How you are comfortable? How? What? What are you

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comfortable? Yes? Yes? How
are you comfortable wearing? What's going to

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be? Because when you're sorry,
when you're comfortable, you'll be able to

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be confident. Right, you're not
fixing it fidgeting, You're not wondering how

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does this look? Do I look? Does my boat look too big?

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Does this? You know you're comfortable, and so that allows you to show

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up. That allows you to really
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you're going to serve and help others. But it's about being comfortable. And

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you had mentioned the point about how
I look pulled together. I appreciate that,

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so I thank you. And another
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intentionality. Right, Be intentional about
the message that you're going to send when

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you get dressed. Right, Sometimes
I say, let's not think about what

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am I going to wear today?
But instantly, what do I want to

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say? Today. Right, what
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I'm sending about me? What do
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Right? So think about that and
then get dressed with some intention. You

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have some intention, not just don't
just think of your clothes, I'm just

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going to throw something on. I
think of be more intentional, and then

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you'll find that when you create an
output, when you create a wardrobe that

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really supports how you live and supports
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the world, it makes it so
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together. Right, You're not rummaging
through and trying to find something because you

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have all these things that no longer
serve your lifestyle. As an example,

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I came from corporate. My background
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to a move transition to being an
entrepreneur, I still held on to all

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of my corporate suits. I had
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Right, had all these suits because
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and I may want to wear the
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so every time I was getting dressed
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my closet, it's a huge thing. Of suits, and then I had

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a small section of what I would
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your my closet wasn't serving me.
My closet, not the life I was

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living. So I was in courage
clients to think about how are you living?

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You think about your lifestyle, so
these suits. And then the other

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thing I thought about is, but
you know, I may need to wear

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suits again, and if I go
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I may want to wear my suits. But the important thing is,

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yes, I may want to wear
a suit, but those that style of

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suit is three years, four years
old, right, I'm not going to

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want to wear that suit. I'm
going to want to hear something new,

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something fresh, right. So I
really went through this process and really just

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got rid of those suits because I
wasn't wearing head to toe suits and I

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didn't miss and I didn't miss them. That was the other thing, The

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same thing. After a few years
after I retired, I did the exact

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same thing, because, like you
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closet, I had a cloent that
was just filled with all these suits.

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And so one time, one day
I just called this lady up. She

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does the program Dress for Success.
I called, I said, look,

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I have these suits, and she
was blown away because she didn't know she

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was gonna be get suits. I
tell you, I cleaned that closet out

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and like, I gave away those
suits because they were just sitting there and

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taste the money picking up space exactly. Think about the fact that you haven't

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touched something in years, then you
probably that you're going to write and then

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sometimes we said, oh, but
I spent so much money on them.

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But it's okay for you to gift
items that you spent money. And you

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don't have to only give away items
that have no value. Right you can

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gift others and I mean they'll give
them new love brings you new life and

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opportunities to these to these women.
So yes, that's my soap box.

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Now I have a question that I
have to ask you, because this is

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another question that I have done battle
with with someone that I know. We've

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gone back and forth on this.
Stockings. What do you think about women

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wearing stockings now? Because you know, most of the time you see ladies,

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don't you know, they're not really
into wearing stockings anymore? Tell me

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what your thoughts on on that.
Okay, stockings, and this may not

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be popular opinion, but I have
not worn stockings in years, unless it's

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unless it's winter, like winter title. But I think you're asking me more

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like stockings, like if you're going
to the office, that's what you're you're

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going to the office, or if
you're you know, dressed in a nice

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dress. You know, like if
you're going on to a nice dinner,

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a nice function, uh play or
something where you're dressed in a nice then

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yes, I could wear a stocking, but like every day going to work,

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stock hold panty holes. Mm hmmm
mmm mmmm. I think that's a

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personal preference. I don't. I
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So but it's just it's a lot
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it's unless it's like tights, like
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you know, if you were like
black, shared tights with with maybe boots,

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boots and a dress or a shark
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that. But when I'm thinking of
it, stockings just like in your every

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day work. Yeah, no,
it's been a while. Yeah, I

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don't think I haven't. Any of
my clients have done stockings just maybe just

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maybe tights in fall and winter?
Okay, yeah, definitely. Now I

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gotta tell you, I like when
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nice dress or whatever. I do
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in the winter time. I Am
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right, I mean, if you're
getting dress, nice dress, black,

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you know, dress heels and it's
a fancy function, then yes, I

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think for sure, you know,
like a thin what do you call it?

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I don't remember the words? Not
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Yes, absolutely right. So what
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style is a tool? Ah?
Yes, so you know, I see

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it as a tool to be able
to take us from where we are to

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where we want to go, whether
we if it's you know, if you

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set your career goals, career aspissions
or style is a piece of that entire

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puzzle. Yes, your resume is
important. Yes, it's important to the

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networking. It's important to have the
cover letter to get further accreditations. But

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I think people also people miss overlook
their style being a part of their career

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success toolkit. Right because I talk
about about your personal brand, your style

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is a packaging of your personal brand. Right, it's the first thing that

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people see. So it's a tool
to help you. It's a tool for

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sure, for communication, right,
it is you can say who you are

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without speaking. People make assessments of
us in no time, in a few

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seconds, right, they start to
make judgments and assessments. So your style

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is a tool that for communication,
and it's also a tool to help you

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to position yourself for different opportunities.
Now, you mentioned a personal brand and

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as a relationship, what do you
think the relationship between those two are our

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personal brand and our style? Because
I think one of the things that I

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think women don't realize is that,
especially when they're in the workplace in career,

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they do have a personal brand and
whether they know it or not,

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they there is a personal brand there. So what do you think that relationship

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is between the two, the personal
brand and the style. So personally,

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a lot of people don't even think
they have a personal brand. They say,

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oh, I'm just stun employee,
I don't have I'm telling anything.

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I don't have a personal brand.
I mean, and sometimes people get reputation

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and personal brand confused. When you
have when you think of your personal brand,

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it's really about intention, right,
and having intentionality behind your brand,

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so intentionally in terms of really intentionally, how you influence somebody to think something,

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think a certain thing about you.
Right, that's your personal brand,

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So it encompasses it's a feeling,
the feeling that people get when they work

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with you, when they interact with
you. It is you know, your

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skills and what you're known for.
All of this is a part of your

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personal brand. And I have and
as I mentioned previously, your style really

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is the packaging of your brand because
it's the first thing that people see.

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So people say, I get pushback. Sometimes people say, well, that's

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you know, that's that is very
superficial. It shouldn't matter about what I'm

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wearing because I'm a great employee.
I am. I'm a great I can

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close deals or whatever it is that
you're good at. Get that, I'll

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get that pushback. And so my
answer is, and you know that may

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be so true, but before I
know what a fantastic fill in the blank

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you are, I see you.
Right, So that's the first thing.

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And sometimes we're not even we don't
even know what opportunities we have missed because

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I didn't even think to offer it, just because they just didn't there was

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a disconnect. And so in terms
of your style and your brand, it's

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really important that your style aligns with
your personal brand and it aligns with the

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message that you want to send about
you. We spend all the time creating,

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you know, your assets, You
spend all the time getting your resume

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up. You spend all this time
getting further accreditation, networking, getting sponsors

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and mentors with throughout your career.
Also, you need to you want to

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include that piece that that that statues, because what happens is when you you

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put your assets out there and people
read about you or they see are they

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they're seeing all or hearing all that? And then when you show up,

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if there is a disconnect right between
what what you're putting out there and what

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they expect, there's people are like, hmm, there's like a trust issue.

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People like, am I if I
invest in this person, whether it's

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invest to do business, invest to
hire, invest in promotion, what am

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I getting? Am I getting all
of the things that they talk about or

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their assets or what people tell me? Or am I getting what I see

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in front of me? Right?
And the confused mind don't buy confused minds,

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They just step on. No,
they don't, right, they don't

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want so you want to be clear, which is why I say that your

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your image and what you're saying,
you really need to have a consistent,

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confident story, right that that line
that threat that runs through all of your

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touch points, whether it's your it's
how you look, it's your your what

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you're doing on socials, it is
your resumes, your all of that.

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It needs to be cohesive. It
needs to really it needs to be aligned.

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Wow, it's it's amazing that.
Like you said, now, one

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of the things you always hear too
is especially in the career in the workplace

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is dressed for the position that you'd
like to attain. You know, sort

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of like if you if you feel
like you want to get into management or

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executive position, then you should look
kind of look the part before you even

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have the position. What do you
think about that? Do you agree with

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that? I agree with that.
I agree with that. What's challenging now

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00:32:08.079 --> 00:32:15.759
is that because our dress codes are
relaxed and because you know, people aren't

410
00:32:15.839 --> 00:32:22.680
really dressing as they used to.
Sometimes there is it's great, right because

411
00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:29.119
sometimes you'll have the levels up SDPs
or the leadership team and they're very casual,

412
00:32:29.799 --> 00:32:34.559
especially depending on your industry. So
what I tell what I tell plans

413
00:32:34.680 --> 00:32:38.559
is yes, use the next step
as a as a guide, right,

414
00:32:38.599 --> 00:32:44.200
look at it and see take some
clues from what the next level is wearing.

415
00:32:44.720 --> 00:32:47.160
However, you if it's a very
casual organization, like when I work

416
00:32:47.200 --> 00:32:52.599
with people who are in sports and
entertainment, right, that that tends much

417
00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:57.319
more laid back. You can't take
necessarily or they'll tell me, Yeah,

418
00:32:57.319 --> 00:33:00.480
but I don't like how my boss
dresses. I don't think she dresses whatever

419
00:33:00.519 --> 00:33:02.440
it is, you know, however, I don't like that. So it

420
00:33:02.559 --> 00:33:07.680
is a great opportunity for you as
a person as you're looking forward, for

421
00:33:07.759 --> 00:33:14.079
you to for you to create your
story, for you to take, for

422
00:33:14.200 --> 00:33:15.799
you to own the narrative, for
you to say, you know what,

423
00:33:16.599 --> 00:33:21.519
I'm positioning myself with this level.
This is this is a message I want

424
00:33:21.559 --> 00:33:24.400
to send about me. So I'm
going to dress this way. I am

425
00:33:24.440 --> 00:33:29.960
going to present myself in a way
that when people see me when we're in

426
00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:32.319
the office, when whatever it is
they're going to I'm going to own the

427
00:33:32.400 --> 00:33:36.720
story that they're going to tell about
me. Right, So, yes,

428
00:33:36.839 --> 00:33:39.720
take your clues from higher up.
But I can be difficult depending on your

429
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:45.400
industry. However, use it as
a time to really define your brand,

430
00:33:45.480 --> 00:33:50.839
your personal brand. I know some
people just have they have this is my

431
00:33:51.079 --> 00:33:53.599
this is my standard. I'm not
going even though the office is casual,

432
00:33:53.680 --> 00:33:55.960
I'm not going to wear a jeans
to work. That's not a part of

433
00:33:57.039 --> 00:34:00.839
who I am. So we empowered
to know that you can, you know

434
00:34:01.160 --> 00:34:07.559
you you can still be authentic and
show up authentically. It's really a balance,

435
00:34:07.599 --> 00:34:14.280
a balance of what is the employee
employer expectations of employees, balancing how

436
00:34:14.400 --> 00:34:17.960
you feel most comfortable so that and
then also what your audience expects so that

437
00:34:19.239 --> 00:34:23.840
it's it's a great balance. Absolutely. I remember when I was still working

438
00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:29.960
and I was actually working in an
area where I actually did surveillance for the

439
00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:35.159
organization I was working for, and
most of the people on the team said

440
00:34:35.199 --> 00:34:38.519
they wore jeans, T shirts and
stuff like that. But because I wasn't

441
00:34:38.519 --> 00:34:44.760
that into jeans, I always wore
casual slacks and the time, you know,

442
00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:49.639
so I didn't do the gene.
I didn't go that much down but

443
00:34:49.679 --> 00:34:54.159
obviously you know enough. But the
thing that happened was it was amazing because

444
00:34:54.199 --> 00:35:00.280
what happened is that they started because
I wasn't in the jeans of time whenever

445
00:35:00.440 --> 00:35:05.320
they had to go into a restaurant
or something to follow someone into a restaurant,

446
00:35:05.320 --> 00:35:08.760
that they started sending me because I
look like I fit in a little

447
00:35:08.800 --> 00:35:15.599
more than the ones that may have
had on the genes. And so eventually

448
00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:23.559
they start they change the rule to
tell them the genes they every day and

449
00:35:23.599 --> 00:35:28.519
that is it too write when you
hold your standard, Yeah, come up

450
00:35:28.559 --> 00:35:31.159
to meet you, right, And
so it's really important, you know,

451
00:35:31.880 --> 00:35:37.960
especially now since we have there's so
much blurring off what business casual is and

452
00:35:37.039 --> 00:35:44.400
it already depends on your organization and
industry, the culture of the industry.

453
00:35:44.679 --> 00:35:47.639
You know, clients, my clients
who are more formal industry, banking,

454
00:35:47.719 --> 00:35:52.039
law, finance, they're gonna wear
their business casual is going to be very

455
00:35:52.039 --> 00:35:57.199
different from clients who are more marketing
or social media marketing or digital marketing.

456
00:35:57.480 --> 00:36:00.000
Right, they'll tend to be.
And even that it's a generalization, which

457
00:36:00.280 --> 00:36:07.239
not necessarily is true, because I
have female lawyer clients and they all dressed

458
00:36:07.239 --> 00:36:14.199
differently depending on the type of law
that they have, they they they practice.

459
00:36:14.320 --> 00:36:16.239
Yeah, they all dressed differently.
And also it has to do with

460
00:36:16.519 --> 00:36:22.239
how they're comfortable, So we really
have to look at But what's important.

461
00:36:22.280 --> 00:36:25.519
The point I want to make is
that the culture of your industry and your

462
00:36:25.599 --> 00:36:31.400
company culture is important and those will
dictate kind of what is appropriate dress for

463
00:36:31.639 --> 00:36:37.920
your situation. And another thing to
remember too, is it again if you're

464
00:36:37.960 --> 00:36:42.679
going for a higher level position.
Because I also remember when we did have

465
00:36:42.760 --> 00:36:46.239
the dressed down Fridays when you can
you know, like where the genes and

466
00:36:46.280 --> 00:36:51.559
all it is, and that particular
time, one time I did wear a

467
00:36:51.599 --> 00:36:53.960
pair of jeans and wouldn't you know, I got called in because I was

468
00:36:54.000 --> 00:37:00.519
also a EEO representative. I got
called in to upper manage and to give

469
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:08.719
them a briefing on the EEO stats. How do you go into So that's

470
00:37:08.920 --> 00:37:13.719
too. That then another reason why
I never wore the jeans to work.

471
00:37:13.800 --> 00:37:16.280
I always made sure if I did
dress down casual, I also had a

472
00:37:16.360 --> 00:37:22.079
nice jacket or whatever I could throw
on to pull it together. Because that's

473
00:37:22.119 --> 00:37:27.000
that's something that also happened to me. And you don't want things like that

474
00:37:27.039 --> 00:37:30.760
to happen to you, especially you're
like said, your your your brand,

475
00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:35.760
your personal bring your image, because
if I had walked in there with those

476
00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:40.440
jeans on, It's like, look, you know they would have they would

477
00:37:40.519 --> 00:37:45.239
have noticed that I had on those
genes for sure. And you know that's

478
00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:49.480
a good point because when I work
with I worked with a client who was

479
00:37:49.679 --> 00:37:54.679
in tech, big big tech company, and so you know, we know

480
00:37:54.800 --> 00:37:59.760
we've also that tech is casual.
Gan you know, jeans and T shirt.

481
00:38:00.079 --> 00:38:02.119
She said, I'm tech, but
I don't want to show up that

482
00:38:02.199 --> 00:38:06.199
way, right, that is not
who I am. I So we spent

483
00:38:06.239 --> 00:38:09.800
time unreally created a wardrobe, not
that was full of suits, but a

484
00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:15.519
wardrobe that you know, could still
it was still casual, but it wasn't

485
00:38:15.199 --> 00:38:22.400
still polished, not jeans, but
items that she felt put together. She

486
00:38:22.599 --> 00:38:30.599
felt, she felt confident in right, and definitely much more than jeans and

487
00:38:30.679 --> 00:38:32.760
T shirt. And I saw an
article recently in the Wall Street Journal that

488
00:38:32.880 --> 00:38:37.519
spoke to this. It was a
man in tech. I think it was

489
00:38:37.519 --> 00:38:44.199
maybe a Google employee, I don't
remember, in tech, and he noticed

490
00:38:44.199 --> 00:38:47.599
that he usually wore like a graphic
tea and jeans. And he noticed in

491
00:38:47.679 --> 00:38:52.000
a meeting somebody another man came in
not in her jeans and T shirt,

492
00:38:52.039 --> 00:38:58.280
but more put together and he noticed
how that man commanded the room, how

493
00:38:58.360 --> 00:39:04.239
people were respond to him, and
he changed what he was wearing because he

494
00:39:04.519 --> 00:39:09.599
saw the difference it made on people. How people So it's it's important people

495
00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:13.960
say, well, you know,
you talk about authentic self, and my

496
00:39:14.039 --> 00:39:17.440
authentic self is just sweat hoo do
I don't I don't know if I agree

497
00:39:17.480 --> 00:39:22.719
with that. You can be comfortable
and polished at the same time. They're

498
00:39:22.760 --> 00:39:28.280
not mutually exclusive, and comfort is
not only a hoodie and sweats. It

499
00:39:28.360 --> 00:39:31.119
can be, but there's retailers have
done a great job now of really providing

500
00:39:31.199 --> 00:39:36.559
pieces that are comfortable that if you
stretch, you can move in that still

501
00:39:36.599 --> 00:39:38.960
looks great for if you have an
office environment where they really want it more

502
00:39:38.960 --> 00:39:43.039
than you know you want to show
a little bit a little more elevated.

503
00:39:44.039 --> 00:39:49.760
Wow. So one of the things
I'm hearing, because you spoke about this

504
00:39:49.880 --> 00:39:55.159
before, that your style is a
part of sort of a success too for

505
00:39:55.239 --> 00:40:00.639
you. You got to make sure
that you know your your style can help

506
00:40:00.679 --> 00:40:07.840
you actually not only change things sometimes, but move up because people will notice

507
00:40:07.920 --> 00:40:13.519
you because you already you know,
made your own style. So to spread

508
00:40:13.800 --> 00:40:15.639
yes, and our style and colors, you know it can change our mood.

509
00:40:15.719 --> 00:40:21.320
Data tells us as well that if
we're feeling when we're feeling sad and

510
00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:27.960
down, we reach for clothes that's
big and bulky and gray and really dark

511
00:40:28.039 --> 00:40:31.199
colors that really keeps you down.
And so the reverse is also to that

512
00:40:31.280 --> 00:40:37.480
when you're and then when we're feeling
happy and excited, and we were bright

513
00:40:37.960 --> 00:40:43.679
vibrant colors. This whole thing soon
after the pandemic that was called dopamine dressing,

514
00:40:43.719 --> 00:40:47.159
where you wear bright, lively colors
and you just feel bright and lively

515
00:40:47.239 --> 00:40:52.840
and vibrant. So when you're feeling
down right, think about maybe just changing,

516
00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:55.320
okay, reaching for pieces in your
closet that have more colors, that

517
00:40:55.440 --> 00:40:59.480
colors that make you feel great,
that you feel happy, that you feel

518
00:40:59.559 --> 00:41:04.320
uplifted, and as opposed to wearing
more dark and subdued tones. Wow.

519
00:41:05.159 --> 00:41:09.840
So as you talk about the pandemic
and and you know how people dress before

520
00:41:09.920 --> 00:41:15.679
then and how they're doing now,
what would be your advice or guidance for

521
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:21.440
our viewers to show up well for
themselves now at this point? Yes,

522
00:41:21.760 --> 00:41:24.039
I think the first thing is to
really get clear on who you are,

523
00:41:24.159 --> 00:41:29.320
get clear on how you want to
move through the world. What do you

524
00:41:29.440 --> 00:41:32.280
what message do you want to set
to send about you? How do you

525
00:41:32.320 --> 00:41:36.679
want your audience to receive you?
I think that's really important, Right do

526
00:41:36.719 --> 00:41:42.159
you want are you are you going
to be giving a big presentation? Are

527
00:41:42.199 --> 00:41:45.159
you showing up on zoom? And
you have to lead? So what are

528
00:41:45.199 --> 00:41:47.920
you going to wear that gives you
some more confidence that you're going to feel

529
00:41:47.960 --> 00:41:52.360
great in? Do you? Do
you have a new are you going to

530
00:41:52.360 --> 00:41:57.039
be leading a new team where you
want to feel approachable? Right? Where

531
00:41:57.039 --> 00:41:59.760
you don't want to be in a
If that's the case, you don't want

532
00:41:59.800 --> 00:42:05.519
to wear a very formal black suit
because that gives a separation, right in

533
00:42:05.599 --> 00:42:08.000
terms of I'm here, you're there, right, So you want to maybe

534
00:42:08.039 --> 00:42:13.039
wear brownze and some kind of warm
colors that so that people so that people

535
00:42:13.119 --> 00:42:17.559
feel approachable, that you're approachable,
you know, if you're in banking or

536
00:42:17.800 --> 00:42:22.840
insurance, right than our private banking
insurance sort of that, and you're working

537
00:42:22.840 --> 00:42:25.159
with clients and you really want to
build some trust, right, think about

538
00:42:25.559 --> 00:42:30.159
you know, maybe some colors,
some green, some blues. There's this

539
00:42:30.199 --> 00:42:32.119
whole thing on color psychology and not
undergotting that, but you really want to

540
00:42:32.159 --> 00:42:37.400
be intentional about the message that you're
sending about you, about who you are.

541
00:42:38.360 --> 00:42:40.960
So I think that's the first thing
is to really get clear, you

542
00:42:42.000 --> 00:42:46.280
know, be comfortable, create a
wardrobe that speaks to your life and how

543
00:42:46.360 --> 00:42:52.480
you live, and create piece,
create invest in pieces that you could that

544
00:42:52.639 --> 00:42:57.000
can you can easily mix and match
and create different outfits with. And you

545
00:42:57.039 --> 00:43:00.639
know, style should be fun and
something that you can lean on to give

546
00:43:00.679 --> 00:43:05.400
you strength, to give you courage
for it to be fun. So,

547
00:43:05.679 --> 00:43:12.039
you know those are my main things. Wow, So tell us what next?

548
00:43:12.079 --> 00:43:15.280
What do you have coming up?
Anything on the horizon that you want

549
00:43:15.320 --> 00:43:19.239
us to know about? What do
I have coming up? Well, it's

550
00:43:19.280 --> 00:43:23.000
it's spring, so you know it's
a great time for folks to really think

551
00:43:23.039 --> 00:43:27.400
about how are they showing up,
you know, peeling back the layers of

552
00:43:28.320 --> 00:43:31.119
fall and winter and thinking about,
you know, how do I want to

553
00:43:31.159 --> 00:43:35.039
show up? No, I think
it's a great time to relate, kind

554
00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:38.800
of reassess the message that we're sending, reassessed the closing our closet. Are

555
00:43:38.800 --> 00:43:43.719
you holding onto pieces that don't fit? Are you holding on too and saying

556
00:43:43.719 --> 00:43:45.400
I'm going to lose these ten pounds
that you've been trying that you've been saying

557
00:43:45.440 --> 00:43:52.199
for the past five years is you're
maybe nine years old, right, So

558
00:43:52.559 --> 00:43:54.920
those are things to really to think
about. And so in terms of me,

559
00:43:55.079 --> 00:43:58.800
right, you know, maybe you
want to just have a call and

560
00:43:58.960 --> 00:44:01.760
talk about you know, see what
does it look like if I'm investing in

561
00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:07.400
me and really updating my style.
So I think that's something that I'm excited

562
00:44:07.400 --> 00:44:10.239
about. Springs a busy time for
people in general to say, hey,

563
00:44:10.239 --> 00:44:15.400
I'm ready to show up better for
myself. Absolutely absolutely, So tell us

564
00:44:15.480 --> 00:44:20.440
how can the viewers and listeners reach
out to you if they want to find

565
00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:23.760
out more about you know, their
style and what they can do how they

566
00:44:23.840 --> 00:44:30.639
can show up better? Well?
Absolutely well, I have a a dressing

567
00:44:30.679 --> 00:44:35.400
your body shape that which I think
is a foundation of really looking having your

568
00:44:35.440 --> 00:44:40.920
clothes fit well and if you can't
in your clothes and it's at bigly front

569
00:44:42.000 --> 00:44:50.159
slash dressing, best you can get
there or I'm on LinkedIn Rene Lindo and

570
00:44:50.239 --> 00:44:53.880
my website is Let's get Dressed Now. But yes, I'd love to talk

571
00:44:53.880 --> 00:44:58.480
about this topic. I'm passionate about
it. So if you have any questions,

572
00:44:58.519 --> 00:45:00.199
reach out to me for sure,
and my free guide is awesome.

573
00:45:00.199 --> 00:45:04.760
It goes through other different body shaps
and explains kind of what to wear and

574
00:45:05.119 --> 00:45:08.000
hope to wear it, wear it
alrighty, well, thank you so much.

575
00:45:08.079 --> 00:45:13.840
You appreciate you coming on and giving
us those tidbits on dressing and style

576
00:45:14.039 --> 00:45:17.880
and our image and all of that. Really appreciate you. I know your

577
00:45:17.920 --> 00:45:22.000
schedule is busy, so I do
appreciate you taking time out to come and

578
00:45:22.039 --> 00:45:25.280
talk to us. Thank you so
much for having me, Doctor Lister.

579
00:45:25.360 --> 00:45:31.239
Conversation was great, so thank you
for the invitation. Absolutely so. Now

580
00:45:31.239 --> 00:45:36.400
I'm just going to give everybody a
little bit of what's coming up next.

581
00:45:36.679 --> 00:45:42.039
And as you know, the Black
Business Olympics will be coming up this month

582
00:45:42.159 --> 00:45:49.239
the twenty fifth through the thirty first, and the Black Business Olympics is a

583
00:45:49.280 --> 00:45:54.639
fundraiser to provide scholarships and laptops to
high school seniors going to college and K

584
00:45:54.760 --> 00:46:01.960
through twelve entrepreneurs. The Black Business
Olympics showcases black businesses, black business owners

585
00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:06.719
and corporations all around the world.
And if you'd like to be a speaker

586
00:46:06.800 --> 00:46:10.880
to showcase your business on the platform, then you can email me at info

587
00:46:10.960 --> 00:46:21.639
at EXWSI dot com. Also,
remember that the show Up to Rise Up

588
00:46:21.800 --> 00:46:25.599
Virtual Summit is going to be scheduled
again September twenty sixth through the twenty eight

589
00:46:27.239 --> 00:46:30.719
and if you're interested in being a
speaker for the Show Up to Rise Up

590
00:46:30.039 --> 00:46:36.559
Virtual Summit, then also email me, or you can go to www dot

591
00:46:37.000 --> 00:46:43.239
speak at show Up to Rise upsummit
dot com. That's www dot speak at

592
00:46:43.360 --> 00:46:49.920
show Up to Rise upsummit dot com. And if you have not viewed my

593
00:46:50.360 --> 00:46:54.239
TEDx talk that I did in Vancouver, Canada, make sure that you do

594
00:46:54.440 --> 00:47:00.440
so. I just want to give
all of you a nice hand clap for

595
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continuing to view, continuing to share, and continuing to push my video out

596
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The topic is show Up to Rise Up.

597
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The video as of today is at
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598
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hundred and twenty two views. I
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603
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the magazine. Very nice magazine,
lots of great information in it. Marissa

609
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Bluodorn is the one that puts the
magazine together. She's the publisher for Only

610
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magazine. So I am so excited
today because our guests really did give us

611
00:48:31.760 --> 00:48:37.079
some great information. As you know, our guest today was miss Renee Lindo.

612
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I want to thank her again for
being here. I also want to

613
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thank my viewers and my listeners for
joining me today. This is the success

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for women's show. I'm doctor Madeleine
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out to me, you can email
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go to my website www dot ex
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on all the social media websites I'm
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subscribe to our channel YouTube channel also
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like and share the episodes, especially
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again we had some great tips that
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the successful women's show. We're here
every week. I am your host,

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Doctor Madlin and Lewis helping women to
accelerate the path to success. Again,

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thank you so much for joining us. I love you all to life and

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as always, be well and stay
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