Life First Coaching

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W four WN Radio. I got
the OFT's and did you know women represent

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just three percent of Fortune five hundred
CEOs and less than fifteen percent of corporate

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executives at top companies worldwide. Have
you wondered what the secrets are to getting

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into the top ranks, whether in
the private or public sector? Do you

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want to figure out how to stop
being held back in your career? Are

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passed over for promotion, then you're
in the right place. Hi. I'm

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doctor Mattlanann lewis President and CEO of
the Executive Women's Success Institute. I have

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decades of experience in the military,
the federal government, and corporate America,

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and my mission is to help women
succeed and tap into their full potential.

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I want to reach a million plus
women around the world to become the leaders

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they are meant to be. So
if you want to move into a management

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or executive level position, or maybe
you are a female veteran transitioning out of

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the military into business entrepreneurship, then
reach out to the Executive Women's Success Institute

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at three zero one six nine three
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on the fast track to success.
Well. Hello, and welcome to the

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Success for Women's Show, where you
can view us on Talk for TV and

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listen to us on the Women for
Women Network. I am doctor Madeline Ann

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lewis your host, and my mission
is to help women accelerate the path to

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success. Well. Today is the
first episode of twenty twenty four and the

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topic for today is life First Coaching
and my guest is Jen Ryan. So

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when we talk about bringing people onto
the show, especially in the beginning of

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the year, I am going to
do with just a little bit of change.

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This time, I'm going to bring
Jin on and I'm gonna and how

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I always give you the standard bio
on our guests, Well, this time

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I am going to let her tell
us what she wants us to know about

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Jen Ryan. So welcome Jen Ryan
to the Success for Women Radio and TV

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show. Tell us tell the viewers
and the listener what you want them to

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know about Jen Ryan. Oh my
gosh, where do I begin? Well,

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thank you, that's such an exciting
opportunity. I'm very delighted to be

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here. There's lots I'd love to
share about myself. I've got a kind

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of an interesting story in that I'm
clearly not from around here. So I

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moved to the US with my husband
in twenty twelve. I had a long

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career in human resources in Australia and
got the opportunity to take on a job

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in the headquarters of the organization that
I worked for at the time. Goodness,

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so my hair is annoying with today, and so I joined the company

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in the US and had ten years
with MasterCard, actually in the corporate head

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office in New York. And after
oh gosh, in just last year actually

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we moved here to Colorado, and
we've changed up our lives completely and we

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now have a mountain kind of lifestyle
as opposed to the urban lifestyle of New

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York. But of course all of
my life is back in Australia and one

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of the big challenges is managing family
friendships, circles in Australia and family friendships,

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life and the corporate a career now
here in the US, so I

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live constantly with the foot in both
camps. And having just come back from

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excuse me, from Sydney this Christmas
period, you know, it just reinforces

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how it is a challenge to live
across two countries and yet it's such an

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honor as well. Absolutely, So
that really forms part of who I am

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and a lot of what I bring
to the work that I do too.

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So I could go on and on
about who I am. I don't actually

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to do a lot of coaching,
so talk to us about that. Why

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do you coach and what is your
passion for coaching? Yeah, definitely.

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Well, after a long it's nearly
more than twenty years excuse me, of

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human resources jobs, corporate American,
corporate Astralia, it really stood out for

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me that the one thing I love
the most, excuse me, what's working

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in the coaching way with managers,
with team members, with senior executives,

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et cetera. Realizing that the work
they we're doing is really can really be

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enhanced by sitting down, spending time
with them and understanding what the challenges are

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that are behind the work that's sitting
in front of them. So, for

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example, a manager that's struggling to
motivate his team so often we really sat

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down and talked about it. There
was something else going on in the background

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of his or her life, and
you'd be able to understand that and help

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them bring that to the fore.
A deal with that was an important part

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of the work that I did.
And then on the other end of the

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scale, there would be a team
member wanting to once their career not having

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any idea how to begin that process. I mean, human resources were have

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lots of structures and tools, you
know, things to make that possible for

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them. But when you sit down
and really spend time with somebody and understand

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what the motivators are and help them
move that forward, the career forward because

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of those motivators, then it changes
the story. So you know, that's

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really been a big part of it. And then the third thing that's motivated

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me, honestly to become a coach
is that I have had my own coach

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had a challenging life story from a
personal perspective, which I'm very happy to

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share, as well as a toxic
work relationship at one point, and those

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things motivated me to get my own
coach. And when you see what coach

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you can do for yourself, it's
just really I want to leave. Essentially.

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Yeah, now you mentioned that you
had your own coach, So how

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you know having your own coach,
how are really coaching? How did that

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really impact your life? Because what
if you mentioned you do have your own

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coach? Also? Yes, absolutely, in fact, just what every coach

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I know has their own coach,
and it's all about what you can bring

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to the experience you share them with
others, and so that becomes an important

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part of it. The shift was
that I was able to step back from

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the issues that were just crowding me
in and helping really making me struggle.

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Essentially, like coach helped me see
different perspectives, helped me see that what

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I had inside me to shift the
challenges that were in front of me was

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all, as I said, was
all there. And I you know,

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I'm resourceful and creative and whole,
and I can bring the things that I

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need to to challenge the situation.
I can bring those to the four I

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just need somebody to bring them out
of me as a client or as a

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you know, as somebody needing that
support. And I find that's the case

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with every coaching session that I have. Where As humans, we're all really

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I hold that we are all really
creative and resourceful and whole, and we

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just can't get out of our own
way sometimes. So, you know,

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being able to think about things differently
because I'm being asked a really big challenging

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question and open question, you know
that I can sit with and kind of

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think through the answers to just really
help you bring that stuff out of yourself.

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And we often say in coaching actually
that the real work gets done in

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between the sessions because I will ask
a client big question, and I will

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invite them to sit with that question
as sort of like homework essentially, and

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then you know, journal on it, think about it, see what comes

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up for them, and when that
occurs that they take the time to do

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that, as I did in my
own experience, nine times out of ten,

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you get the answer, you get
a new idea, you see a

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new perspective. I kind of like
to say that it's like opening a window

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and letting all the light and air
come in so that underneath that issue you've

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got all this new way of thinking. So that was the impact my own

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coach had, and I'm loving I'm
to share that with others too. Now.

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I noticed when I was reading about
you one of the things you said

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that you uh, when you're coaching, you help them to build better boundaries,

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world satisfying relationships, and find fulfillment
outside of work without in their edge.

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So most of your clients, the
clients that you coach, are most

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of them women? Or do you
have men too that you go majority of

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the women. I have had a
couple of very brave, amazing male clients

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who because unfortunately we don't see a
lot of men stepping into coaching. That's

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been my experience anyway, certainly not
in the in the non leadership space.

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But yes, most of my clients
have been women, and they are most

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typically experiencing lots of success at work, doing great things, shooting the lights

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out, and yet they're miserable outside
of work. They step back for a

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moment and realize that they have and
they don't have a life that they hope

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they would have. Perhaps they don't
have a partner in the point of life

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that they thought they would have been
able to enjoy that don't have a family

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that is working really long hours,
it's impossible that they feel it's impossible to

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say no to the demands of work. They can't stop because that impacts So

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they think that impacts their ability to
get a promotion or the pay rise,

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or to to it'll make them look
vulnerable or aren't able to perform the job.

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And you know what I help them
do is see that those things aren't

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necessarily true, and that if you
want a life that is more fulfilling and

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has time for family, friendships,
you know, good health, etc.

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Outside of work, then got to
stop. Something's got to change, and

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putting some boundaries in place helps you, helps you say no to the things

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that just are not serving you and
are impacting the way you know you truly

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want to live. It seems to
be most of us can put up with

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that for a period of time,
that sense of you know, this doesn't

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feel good, but look, I
don't know what to do to change it.

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There comes a point in time where
you sit back and reflect and say,

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I'm missing out. I'm not getting
the things that I want and I

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feel miserable and potentially, you know, what I've even seen with some clients

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is that they're drinking too much,
they're certainly eating the wrong things. So

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their health and lifestyle issues have been
really impacted. And that's when it hits

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them in a poor sleep, not
enough sleep, probably on an international phone

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call. And actually the one very
brave male client that I had was a

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really clear example of the same thing. He was a family guy, he

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was in a global job that took
him two different markets all around the world

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and tippy and he was based he
actually was based in Australia and typically the

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phone calls and teammates that he had
worked three a m. In the morning.

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Now, something's got to give.
You can't take doing that as a

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you know, as a as a
human essentially, and that was week in,

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week out constantly. So that was
one of the creators for him to

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find a way to try and make
some change. Now, you you mentioned

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a lot of what I think are
their pain points. Uh were going over

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some of the things that you So
how do you help them to deal with

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some of these things? Because kind
of went and through went, you know,

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and through a lot of things that
you've been seeing as you've been coaching

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these ladies. How do you know, especially you know, you know you're

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coming out of an old year into
a new year, and people start making

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these resolutions, and you know,
because we want to change stuff that was

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going on and you know that the
last year. So how do you help

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them through that? How do you
get them to deal with these things?

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It's a great question. One of
the one of the things I've held true

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for this year particularly is that it's
not about goals. It's about growth.

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And I read that somewhere and I
can't remember that, but I loved the

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essence of that. So so you
know, it's definitely not about making these

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amazing these resolutions that which don't think, you know, we won't be able

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to stick to. That's one of
one of the key things that we do,

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one of the first things that we
do together in our program of work,

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and it's typically if I just go
back and step, it's typically either

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a three month program or a six
month program, because what we know is

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the change doesn't happen overnight, and
you have to connect. If you find

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a way to step in, take
ownership of the journey you want to take,

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and make the changes that you want
to make, and that does not

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happen in one or two sessions,
so typically over the course of three or

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six months, will work on one
of the first things around the values,

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So identifying your values, what they
mean to you, how they show up

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in your life, and how you
live them when you are sustaining those values

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in your life, and understanding and
becoming very aware of when those values are

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being stomped on, Like the values
are those things that are so intrinsically inside

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us that are they must must not
be squashed. They must then unsquashable if

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you like. And somebody gave you
that to me, I love that,

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so you know that that sense that
I need in tech, for example,

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in tech is critical to me.
Honesty, adventure, exhilaration, creativity,

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joy, what you know, there
are many all those beautiful words. We

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actually go through a couple of exercises
around identifying those values and naming them,

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and then we start with a big
long list and you can bring them into

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about ten that really start to resonate
with you. And then I encourage my

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clients to really sharpen that down to
at least so rather than at the most

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five key values that they absolutely know
they cannot not have in their lives so

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that they become really guiding minds and
guiding points for their lives. Once you

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know what your values are, then
you can see where it's all going wrong.

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Because, for example, if I
value this is a part example,

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if I can value cree creativity and
I'm in a job that gives me no

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spare hours in my day, my
value of creativity is being squashed. I'm

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tolerating something that's not working for me, and that's why I feel miserable.

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It's why I often say it feels
like sand in your shoe rubbing on you.

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You can kind of put up with
it for a while, and then

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at some point it just you can't
any longer. And that's when that a

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critical value, an important value in
your life is not being honored, and

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that gives you a sense of what
needs to change. So then we work

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on all right, Well, that
set of values, those five or six

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doesn't know in that whatever the number
of key values are that are really important

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to you must be present in your
life. How do you create and preserve

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in that creativity example or I'm not
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you know, let's start somewhere.
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to create a boundary and I need
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of that then is I encourage my
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manifesto and sit down together and we
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we were manifesto essentially is when we
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we write it down and make a
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starting point. There won't be so
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to help somebody get to that place. It's all the last to honor those

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the gning you know, their personal
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obviously important. So in the in
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a long time for them to you
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you hear people say, you know
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of times, you know, don't
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something that really does matter to you
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exercise of finding values, miney for
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and for some people achieving those an
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take weeks because I generally meet with
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long it takes, but it's an
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matter is because they really establish a
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establish a sort of a framework that
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our work lives to say this is
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my space, and this is what's
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sense of control. That's the other
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anybody who is finding that, they
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have been shifted or they've lost the
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of all understand when we don't have
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have them back in our lives and
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be able to say no, and
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me? And to not feel you
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know those boundaries are important to me. They may be different to your boundaries.

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to explain them. So that becomes
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a better word, you know.
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in a work context, it's not
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not easy to say to your boss
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available for that nine pm phone call
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for my clarity, for my health, for my whatever it is, my

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family situation, and just step into
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out of ten what happens with when
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into it and owner giving permission to
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nine times out of ten, you
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you know that worked for me,
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or now done the same. And
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in that sense. So it's it's
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others admire that it has the potential
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to you have different you know that
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do how do you tailor the strategies
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to hear what the topic is.
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of my clients that are going to
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if that's not relevant, then that's
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the big topic is and see what's
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that's actually how I do think about
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I'm unhappy, I'm unfulfilled, i hate

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my job, whatever, and sitting
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on any given day it's my job
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come up. And gender that's the
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my agenda and it's not going to
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solutions will come through your own thinking
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hmmm. So so you literally guide
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you know, opportunities. That's that's
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absolutely. Yeah. And when I
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I'm hearing that we might need to
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for one person can have a number
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I ask, that open questions.
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you know, why blah blah blah, rather than a yes or no answer

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because something, And so that opens
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differently. One of the other important
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is to create space for the answer. And honestly, there are times in

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some of our sessions where there is
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there and needs to needs to permeate
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they are able to just sit with
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it's important for me to encourage that
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for question at least, you know, and that nine times out of ten

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that will happen as well. So
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and honoring you know, celebration and
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answering of the questions and thinking about
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you a sense of it? Absolutely? Absolutely so. I guess my next

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question then would be how has your
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way you understand and support your clients. Yeah, that's where that's where I

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all have had, of course,
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think that is that I found very
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a successful career in human resources,
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in the last six months of essentially
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meant I needed to change obviously the
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I had a charlat big challenge in
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husband and I separated for ten years, so during that time I was very

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vulnerable and I was feeling very unsure
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I was good at actually was the
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up with an awful lot of toxicity
until there came a time when I just

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knew this is not healthy, helpful
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at that time to just ask the
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Change the way I thought about things
allowed me to number one, leave

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that job with confidence and step into
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more recently from that, my husband
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you know, we have a very
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I know that it would not have
been possible with coaching, because I would

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have held all sorts of judgments and
challenges with frustrations close to my chest and

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told nobody about them, your friends
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with actions and homework and that sort
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about that in a minute. But
that is very different from having a really

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great coaching, a really great conversation
with a girlfriend. The straight is there,

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you know, the willingness to challenge
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them, or to remind them that
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you're doing it again. Is that
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client? That loving challenging is really
important. And I experienced all that coach

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that helped, and that part of
my life became really an important driver for

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what I know. I want to
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and enjoy it. M hm.
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an impact on your class? I
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do you get for The one big
thing I love is referrals, of course,

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that's brilliant, and that tells me,

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yeah, that's a good thing.
Somebody has appreciated what I've done.

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to my community and sharing my thoughts
with my community is that I do have

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a weekly newsletter and I get lots
of lovely responses from that because I write

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in a very heartfelt, vulnerable kind
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that's an important feedback tool. And
honestly, it is feedback along the

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way and the coaching journey. And
I really welcome a client saying to me

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that question, don't ask me that
question that's too hard, or please don't

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go there. I don't want to, you know, give me homework,

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give me more homework. And when
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exercise to do or give me something
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I want that, and so I
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on. Mm hmmm hmm. So
tell us, do you have anything coming

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up on the horizon, any training
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to let us know about. Yeah, I want to. I'd like to

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say I have more than I do
because I'm doing some other I've got projects

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in place that are not quite ready
to land yet. I am for anybody

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in the Colorado area. I will
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coming up just after Valentine's Day and
we'll be sorry, there's some noise in

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my background. I hope that's not
not hearing that. So this is this

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workshop coming up on the fifteenth of
February is a workshop where we will be

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going through values and boundaries and looking
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of our lives that are fulfilled and
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it'll be fun journey. We haven't
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but that's coming, so I could
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main thing is that I truly welcome
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and so people are interested in finding
out more about coaching with me, what

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our programs, my programs look like, sharing a little bit about their challenges

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and seeing whether coaching is the right
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discovery conversation and they are complimentary.
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really welcome you to pick up the
phone or jump on the website and book

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a session with me. As I
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of thirty or forty minutes together we
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for you and how coaching can help
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say, even though you're not you
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of things we've discussed here. As
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go there and there's really no limits, so I really welcome and invite.

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listeners, what would that piece of
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question. So much. One big
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say, don't sit with things that
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you. And so that you go
into twenty twenty four feeling the way you

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did in twenty twenty three, start
afresh, take the opportunity. And I

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will say, even if there is
something that is a potentially good opportunity or

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a good something good coming that you
don't know how to get to or don't

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know how to achieve or obtain,
that's also worth coaching on as well to

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help you get there. So it's
not only about struggling and challenging the challenges,

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it's about stepping into new opportunities as
well. So don't be the person

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you were or the things that don't
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back in community to get some coaching
have a conversation. Absolutely believe it.

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If our viewers and our listeners wanted
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they do so? Yes, I
think you'll be posting the website my website,

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and that's really the most efficient way
I think at this point. With

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that, you'll be able to jump
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the usual newsletter sorry every week.
So that'll be wonderful and I really welcome

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that. And then that gives you
access to who I am a little bit

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more about me. So between my
website and then jumping on and sharing your

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email address and picking up the newsletter
each week, that's fine. The other

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thing I'd absolutely welcome, of course, is that people just contact me directly

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on jen at life first coaching dot
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your social media platforms also too. Yes,

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well, just dropped my most recent

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newsletter on Facebook and leaked in today. Now that I will say is new

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Jennifer me. So I'm going to
I've committed myself to doing that much more

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this year. It was good.
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absolutely well, it has been a
pleasure to have you as our first

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guest of twenty twenty four on the
successful Women's Show this year, and let

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talk more about what you're doing,
and you know, having you on some

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of the other things that we have
coming up. But it's been a pleasure

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having you on. Thank you so
much for taking time out of your schedule

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to be here. Appreciate it.
Oh gosh, I appreciate it. Off

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a really honor to be number one
for the year. My goodness, Yeah,

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thank you doctor. Good to see
you again. By now okay,

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now, I'm just going to give
everyone just some upcoming events for some things

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that I'll be participating in. But
first of all, make sure that you

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get your copy of the On It
anthology It's Your Life On It Unapologetically and

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the journal three hundred and sixty five
Days to Transformation. If you'd like to

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purchase these books, if you want
to, you can purchase one or both

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as a set. To do so, please go to my website, which

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is www dot ex WSI dot com. There's a link on there where you

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can purchase one or both of the
books as a set. If you'd like

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to find out more about any information
on the book, you can email me

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of course at info at EXWSI dot
com. Also make sure to tune in

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this week which is happening this week
January the twenty second through through the twenty

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ninth. It's the Black Business Olympics, and as you know, the Black

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Business Olympics is a fundraiser to provide
scholarships and laptops to high school seniors going

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to college and k through twelve entrepreneurs. The Black Business Olympics showcases black businesses,

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black business owners and corporations all around
the world. And if you'd like

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to be a speaker or to showcase
your business, you can email me at

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info at EXWSI dot com. And
if you'd like to donate for the scholarship

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or to the fundraiser, then you
could go to Black businessxpousa dot com and

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donate. I will be speaking on
the platform tonight at seven pm, so

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if you like to watch live the
live talk, then you can go to

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my YouTube channel, our YouTube and
put in my name, actually no,

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put in Black Business Olympics and watch
the live session so you'll be able to

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see me speaking at seven pm tonight. Also running right now and I am

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very excited is my show up to
Rise Up Summit. It is running.

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It started today January twenty fifth,
and it will run through the twenty seventh,

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which is Saturday. And to watch
it live, you can go to

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www dot Show Up to Rise Up
Summit live dot com. That's www dot

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Show Up to Rise Up Summit live
dot com and it will take you right

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into the live streaming broadcast. You
will see I'm telling you some incredible speakers

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and again it's running for three days, the twenty fifth through the twenty seventh,

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will in Saturday around four point thirty, so you'll be able to watch

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it up until then. I'm also
going to be doing another one in September

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of twenty twenty four, so if
you're interested in being one of the speakers

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in the summit, you have a
lot of time to contact me let me

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know. You know, we could
talk about your topic and your being a

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speaker in the event my Show Up
to Rise Up Summit, which I'll be

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doing again in September twenty twenty four. To find out more about that,

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you can email me at info at
EXWSI dot com. I am also going

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to be starting and you'll be able
to join the women Show Up to Rise

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Up Network and the mission of the
women's Show Up to Rise Up Network will

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be to empower connect all women in
their career in business, professional and personal

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lives by helping them to gain resource
versus gain about buying power, increase their

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revenue, and to accelerate their personal
business and career growth through a lot of

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opportunities that we hope to bring onto
that network. As a member, you

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will have access to coaching, training, events, workshops, resources, networking

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opportunities and a lot more. I
am also going to be doing another Show

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Up to Rise Up Women's Retreat this
year for twenty twenty four, and that

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also will be in September. The
dates to be determined. It'll probably be

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before we go, before we start
the summit, but the details will follow

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and I'll keep you up to date
on that. But as usual, you

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can email me at info at EXWSI
dot com. Don't forget to view my

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TEDx talk that I did in Vancouver, Canada, make sure to do so.

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The topic, as as as always, is show Up to Rise Up.

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That is the theme Show Up to
Rise Up. You can watch it

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on YouTube and of course to do
so, just put in my name my

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name in the search box Doctor Madelenane
Lewis, or you can send me an

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email for the direct link, which
is email me at info at exwsi dot

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com and I'll send you the direct
link. So make sure to check it

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out. I'm excited because the video
is still moving out there. My goal

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is to reach a million plus views, so I really want to thank all

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of you that have helped to advance
the video and to keep it moving.

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Those of you that have been supported
and shared the video. So I'd like

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to ask you just to keep sending
it out there, get you know,

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keep liking, keep viewing, keep
making comments, and just keep it rolling

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out there until we hit that one
million mark. And finally, I am

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a contributing writer to the own It
magazine. I This is where I share

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nuggets and resources. Every month,
I usually write an article on something that's

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pertinence in career or in business.
Own It Magazine is a resource for personal,

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professional and business development and so make
sure you get a subscription to the

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magazine. For an annual subscription,
you can go to my website which is

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info I mean www dot exw si
dot com. There is a link where

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you can get an annual subscription to
the magazine. Again. This has been

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the success for women's show. As
you know, we are here every Thursday,

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and this is a new year.
We're excited to be back again in

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a new year. I am Doctor
Madeleananne Lewis. I'm your host and you

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know my mission is to help women
accelerate the path. If you like to

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reach out to me, of course, I'm at info at exwsi dot com

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or my website www dot exwsi dot
com. If you go to my website,

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make sure that you download my free
three part video series on three things

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every woman should do to position herself
for executive leadership. I'd also like you

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to sign up for my online course, which is Cracked the Career Code how

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to Lead with Confidence, Charisma and
Credibility. To sign up for the course,

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go to www dot crackthcreercode dot com. And of course you can always

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reach out to me on all the
social media sites. Just DM me,

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email me and you'll be able to
reach me through them. Don't forget to

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subscribe to our YouTube channel. Don't
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TV channel. Don't forget to like
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got some great nuggets today. On
coaching from our guests missus Jen Ryan from

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Life First Coaching. So make sure
that you like this episode, share this

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episode, and do subscribe to the
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success of Women's show. We are
here every week. I am your host,

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doctor Madlin and Lewis helping women accelerate
the path to success. Thank you

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again for joining me. I love
you all to life and as always,

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be well and stay safe out there. I got the eye of the time and